Thankyou for speaking to the complexity of your experience of navigating two things at once in these trans experiences. It felt really resonant for me. For me it was such a crazy lonely time - and also about four years ago! Thankyou for sharing this, I appreciated it.
Hey Orlando! Happy almost four years to you! While I hate to hear that you can relate to how isolating parts of transition can feel at times, I know that finding ourselves reflected in the experience of other folks is a good way to combat that same isolation. So, I'm glad to find another person out there who can relate. Stay in touch and I'll do the same!
So much of the personal stories out there about breast cancer focus on affirming womanhood in a way that I just can’t relate to. I’m not trans-masc, I’m genderqueer with moments of fluidity and no plans to transition, and one of the harder parts of this experience has been finding other people who don’t want or need their womanhood affirmed. My fluidity allows me to accept some of that affirmation but I have been far more concerned with losing my beautiful queer hair than my boobs.
Though I will say that, while never wanted top surgery, I’m not particularly sad about the double mastectomy (especially in 95° heat).
The hair got buzzed today and I really needed your words. Thanks for putting them out for us to read.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. It’s so complex and often so lonely when you realize the thing you’re experiencing just isn’t built for you.
But there’s space for us. Even if we have to elbow our way into it and claim it. It’s really hard to say to those who really mourn the loss of their chest that you’re happy about or at least not upset about that same outcome. What I’ve come to realize is that regardless of our genders however fluid they may be, we are all mourning something. And losing something. And we should be able to talk about that.
And the hair… I feel you. And I’m so sorry. Mine never fully grew back because T was apparently making me bald-ish while chemo did the same thing. But what grew back was curly which was new and kinda fun.
Not saying that to minimize your feelings. But I do hope that your beautiful queer hair comes back more beautiful and more queer than ever.
Always here to chat and rage and whatever else. Don’t hesitate if you need some support or info or anything. Any time.
Thanks so much for this article! It's been four years for me, as well, having began my transition in June of 2022 in honor of Pride month. Thank you for sharing your journey and experience on here. Thank you, thank you.
Hey Jay! We’re T-Twins! It’s great to hear from you. Looking forward to digging into some of your writing! I appreciate the kind words. Thank you for sharing yourself here too. I am always so pumped to meet more trans writers!
Thankyou for speaking to the complexity of your experience of navigating two things at once in these trans experiences. It felt really resonant for me. For me it was such a crazy lonely time - and also about four years ago! Thankyou for sharing this, I appreciated it.
Hey Orlando! Happy almost four years to you! While I hate to hear that you can relate to how isolating parts of transition can feel at times, I know that finding ourselves reflected in the experience of other folks is a good way to combat that same isolation. So, I'm glad to find another person out there who can relate. Stay in touch and I'll do the same!
Congratulations on 4 years, and cheers to the experience of becoming every day for the rest of our lives.
Thank you! And yes! Cheers to always being in the right body, mind, and spirit. 🏳️⚧️
So much of the personal stories out there about breast cancer focus on affirming womanhood in a way that I just can’t relate to. I’m not trans-masc, I’m genderqueer with moments of fluidity and no plans to transition, and one of the harder parts of this experience has been finding other people who don’t want or need their womanhood affirmed. My fluidity allows me to accept some of that affirmation but I have been far more concerned with losing my beautiful queer hair than my boobs.
Though I will say that, while never wanted top surgery, I’m not particularly sad about the double mastectomy (especially in 95° heat).
The hair got buzzed today and I really needed your words. Thanks for putting them out for us to read.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. It’s so complex and often so lonely when you realize the thing you’re experiencing just isn’t built for you.
But there’s space for us. Even if we have to elbow our way into it and claim it. It’s really hard to say to those who really mourn the loss of their chest that you’re happy about or at least not upset about that same outcome. What I’ve come to realize is that regardless of our genders however fluid they may be, we are all mourning something. And losing something. And we should be able to talk about that.
And the hair… I feel you. And I’m so sorry. Mine never fully grew back because T was apparently making me bald-ish while chemo did the same thing. But what grew back was curly which was new and kinda fun.
Not saying that to minimize your feelings. But I do hope that your beautiful queer hair comes back more beautiful and more queer than ever.
Always here to chat and rage and whatever else. Don’t hesitate if you need some support or info or anything. Any time.
Much love to you 💜
Thanks so much for this article! It's been four years for me, as well, having began my transition in June of 2022 in honor of Pride month. Thank you for sharing your journey and experience on here. Thank you, thank you.
Hey Jay! We’re T-Twins! It’s great to hear from you. Looking forward to digging into some of your writing! I appreciate the kind words. Thank you for sharing yourself here too. I am always so pumped to meet more trans writers!
Yes! Especially on this platform. Thanks for subscribing and I hope we stay in touch.